It's a rainy day
today also, I am traveling back from Hyderabad post a memorable trip with my
best friend, we have been planning this forever and made it happen now and
it's the most content feeling to spend life with your best friends, I had a
trial of it. This blog has been in my mind ever since we started traveling, so it's my
story, sorry it's our story. The story of 3 broken, weird, proud and headstrong
women.
So how does it feel
like to be understood without even explaining properly? How does it feel like
to get attention without even putting in any effort? How does it feel like to
be blunt and frank without the thought of what will anybody think? How does it
feel to be foolish, stupid and illogical, and mostly dumb still make you feel
safe and sane? Don't you like to be with such people who can care for you
without any expectations, who would love you without any milestones, and who
will fight for you? who will hold you tight no matter what?
Lemme take you through 2 most important such people in my life, It was a
rainy day during the monsoon of 2009 and it was the messiest day of that
time, I had a friend named prasida during that time, so its that time when you
feel that the non-local friends are cooler than the natives. So I am a Malayali
and from the state capital Thiruvananthapuram. I am a sports enthusiast and was
never inclined to table tennis but that's the twist, Prasida was good in TT and
she introduced me to Reshma. That's the start of an everlasting sisterhood and I
have no clue where Prasida is but Reshma, she is there anywhere I go. We had a
huge long distance in our relationship she was in Bangalore for her UG and then
she flew to London for her PG by the time I came for my PG in Bangalore. Now
that we both are in the neighboring states we are making sure we won't miss out
on any opportunities.
Let me take a pause from her now, so here is remembering the worst 2 years of my life which started with 4am tuition classes and ended with 8pm tuition classes during 2012 -14, It was the first day of Higher secondary education and like every other Indian family my parents dropped me with a lot of expectations and all I wanted
was a good friend so that I can cry with her because I never knew what I really wanted to do. Well like a surprise Athira came into my life, I still remember for a 6-foot tall girl like me getting a tall girlfriend was like a blessing and there I saw a thin tall girl swirling like a tourist in her new school. My school was pretty famous hence all toppers join us for 11th and 12th. I was flipped seeing her, we connected pretty well and long-distance seems to be my thing because she went to repeat and joined Medical school. Though we were in the same city we never really met often but... I had her always because while I started working she was a senior and was having a good time together.
Well since the
introduction is done right let me tell you why these people and the decade-long
friendship/Sisterhood are so important to me. I am a simple person, so bloody
simple that most people feel I am complicated (haha), Like any other girl for
me, also constant communication and nonjudgemental zones to vibe were very
important. I can't even imagine how I would have lived without these 2 souls in
my life. From movies to television shows to that girl from your high
school who constantly said, “I’m only friends with guys because girls are just
too much drama,” there’s a common misconception that female friendships are
catty, mean, and petty. Often, women are paralyzed with the internalized idea
that female friendships are filled with heartbreak, which leads them away from
fulfilling female friendships with women who could bring a lot to their lives.
However, female
friendships can do so much. They offer a real sense of support and comradery,
especially when you allow yourself to truly trust your friends and lean on one
another. In this modern age, people need their friends more than ever —
especially women.
Whether you have a
few besties or a whole goddess crew, your female friendships enhance your life
in so many ways you might not even understand. No matter how strong you may be,
everybody needs some sisters to lean on.
1. Uplifting
One Another
Female friends are
sure to have your back — they’re your wing women, your cheerleaders, and your
hype men. Whether you need a pick-me-up on a bad day or you’re feeling
wonderful, your girls will be there to celebrate with and uplift you. While
male friends can do this, too, there is a sense of
understanding within female friendships that can make the
exchange extra special.
When you uplift
your girlfriends, they uplift you. It becomes a radical cycle of positivity and
happiness.
2. A Safe
Space
Contrary to popular
belief, sensitivity is not a bad thing. In fact, sensitivity is a strength,
especially when it comes to being there for your friends. One of the great
things about having close female friends is that they can be a judgment-free
zone where you can come with problems and struggles. Your friends will
hear you, give advice, or sometimes offer a shoulder to cry on.
Female friends are
more likely to explore their feelings and dive deeper into your troubles and
struggle with you — or perhaps they’ll pop open a bottle of wine and let you
cry it out.
3. One Person
Can’t Do It All
One of the reasons
people — especially women — disappear from friendships and cast them aside is
prioritizing romantic relationships. In a lot of ways, this is totally normal.
If you have a significant other, you probably want to spend as much time with
them as possible. They’re a big part of your life, so this makes sense.
Still, one person
can’t meet all of your needs. Putting that pressure on somebody may be too much
for your partner, and it won’t satisfy
you completely, either. Female friendships are a part of the
collective that helps to fill your life with joy and support. Just like your
romantic partner or family wants to love and support you, your friends will,
too.
4. Harnessing
Your Feminine Energy
If you’re into
energies and engaging with your spirituality throughout your life, tapping into
your feminine energy might be of interest to you. Exploring this side of
yourself can help you feel more comfortable and connected in your identity as a
woman, especially in a society where masculine traits are valued so highly.
Part of harnessing
your feminine energy is being open and
ready to receive, which you can do by surrounding yourself with
powerful women you admire. When you surround yourself with women who have
strong, beautiful feminine energy all around them, you’ll start to see it in
yourself, too.
5. Having a
Little Fun
Although the other
stuff is wildly important, there’s something to be said for letting loose and
having a little fun with your girls. Sure, friendships offer support when times
are tough and encouragement through uncertainty, but on a basic level,
friendship is also about finding people who you like spending time. You
enjoy being in their presence, and you like doing things together.
Spending time with
the people you love is part of what makes life beautiful, so get on board! Kick
back with your girlfriends. Life is short you should all have a bit of fun.
Besties Forever
Female friendships
are important and beneficial for every woman. They have the potential to bring
so much positive change and happiness to your life. Whether you have one or two
besties or a whole group of friends, you deserve positive, fulfilling exchanges
with like-minded women, and you have the power to find them.
Also, there are so many amazing women in my life that make me feel content and the time I have had with them is never enough. starting from my mom, sister to a handful of quality bonds, all of you ladies are my rock!
